1/24/2015

dating slash revelation slash gospel rant.

As a 21-year old girl who has made big decisions in her life and consistently uses her agency, I want to discuss a little bit about personal revelation.

When I was a sophomore in college, I was an undeclared major. I had previously been an Elementary Ed major and knew that wasn't the major for me. I was really worried because I didn't know what I wanted to do. I thought I wanted to do Public Relations but I was unsure. As I was talking to my dad about it, he gave me amazing advice which at the time I didn't really understand. 

He said: You have to make a decision and go for it. If it isn't right, God will tell you. 

Oh, truer words have not been spoken. I have employed this way of thinking into all aspects of my life. Especially dating.

People believe that to make any decision in their life, they need to pray about and go to the temple. Now, don't misunderstand me. When you are making BIG decisions in your life (ie: marriage, moving to a different city, kids, etc.) praying and going to the temple is essential to help you make those decisions. 

But guys, lets be real for a moment. You have your own agency. God doesn't expect you to pray about every decision you make. He TRUSTS you! That's why he gave you agency in the first place. You have the ability to decide what you want to do. If you are praying and reading your scriptures consistently, you have the Spirit with you to guide you in those decisions. If you're making a wrong one, God will let you know. He won't lead you astray. 

I recently dated a boy in November. Things didn't work out, but did I pray about whether or not to date him? Heavens no. I thought he was cute, he was a good member of the church and I wanted to date him. So I did. 

It is important for us as members of the church to trust. I know personal revelation is different for every person. However, I think if you pray about every decision you make you miss out on a lot of opportunities. You don't take risks and you don't give things a chance. 

You know that girl you didn't really know if you wanted to date? Date her. What if it turns into something great? You never know!!

So go get it tiger! Believe in your ability to make decisions and live life to the fullest. 

2 comments:

  1. I completely agree with this!! In my decision to continue to date this guy while Brady was on his mission, or to continue to wait for Brady, it was hard and I prayed for MONTHS for an answer.... I was just waiting around for God to tell me what to do instead of doing something, and then letting God tell me yes or no. I finally made a decision and felt instant peace, and knew that God was letting me know he was aware of me and my decision. It was a hard one, a risk that I took but I'm so glad that I finally realized (like you said) we need to trust God and know that he will answer us in a way that will let us know if our decision is a right decision.

    Loved this!! Thanks for sharing girl :)

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